The Lonely Man of Faith p.66

The community of the committed became, ipso facto, a community of friends – not of neighbors or acquaintances. Friendship – not as a social surface-relation but as an existential in-depth-relation between two individuals – is realizable only within the framework of the covenantal community, where in-depth personalities relate themselves to each other ontologically and total commitment to God and fellow man is the order of the day. In the majestic community, in which surface personalities meet and commitment never exceeds the bounds of the utilitarian, we may find collegiality, neighborliness, civility, or courtesy – but not friendship, which is the exclusive experience awarded by God to covenantal man, who is thus redeemed from his agonizing solitude.


Rabbi Joseph B. Soloveitchik – The Lonely Man of Faith p.66